Sudokuaholics Anonymous 2

What an opportunity this is for your daughter!

Let us all hope she does well and enjoys her education.

I think the thing that kind of pushed her to apply was her religion teacher who was very mean to her and embarrassed her in front of the class. It was right after that she decided to definitely apply.

I agree, Lynda! Stella, it sounds like you don't need to worry about her getting her school work done. She may develop some life-long friends who have similar interests!

I am now going to love you and leave you, time for lunch here in OZ, by now the Perthites should be drowning in hot chololate! Bye all.

I think she will do well because she is the top of her class now and will want to work hard. But it will be alot different because there will be alot of kids there who are smart too.

BYEE Lynda, so good to see you on again, even if you sat quitely and listened a ot!!

Bye Lynda. Nice chatting with you.

Bye Lynda, thanks for the chat! Good luck with the books!

Stells, maybe that is what she needs a bit of a challenge now, was not getting that at her old school. what grade will she be in??

Some teachers don't understand/realize how a quick or flippant comment (sometimes even a calculated or mean comment) can DEVASTATE a student. Both of our daughters faced a teacher like that. Luckily, it sounds like your daughter has become stronger and more determined because of it.

Bye, Lynda. Hope you enjoy your lunch!

I agree with MizT about the challenge. You don't always want your children to be in a situation where they are the best. It's also nice for them to have something to aspire to.

Stella, it may be different, but with other smart kids around, her mind will be stimulated to learn more.

I am still thinking of writing the Board about the teacher. D#2 is quiet and smart, never gives anyone (other than me) a hard time and she didn't deserve it. Especially since the whole thing occurred because she had to miss a school event to go to a memorial mass for my father. You don't want to know what I wanted to do to that teacher.

Stella, I'm so glad you felt comfortable enough with your SA friends to share this. Obviously, you and your family have done a lot of thinking and soul-searching over the decision! Thank you for sharing.

Yes, that's what I thought all along. It would be good to be around kids that like to learn and are smart. I definitely think it will be good for her I'm just not sure how she will handle it.

Nothing as worse as I probably would have done.

OH I had missed the part about the teacher embarrasing her. Julie, I think you are right about how comments by a teacher can really change a childs outlook/ My oldest wrote a very good and thoughtful short story, it came from somethng inher life, a conversation with her grandmother. the teacher gave her a C cause she said a child her age cold not have written that herself!! She never did any more writting and she really had talent!

Thanks for listening. It almost feels like it's been this big secret. It seems better now that it's actually been said out loud. Thanks for listening again.

Oh, Stella, I understand! The nemesis of one of our daughters marked her grade down because she missed too many days (3 in a semester). They were because of the illness and unexpected death of my mother. She BEGGED me not to go to the principal and complain. I still get so angry when I think about it - and when I read in the paper that he has received a 'coach of the year' award.

Stella, is she allowed to leave on weekends? If so, maybe bring her home every other weekend for awhile. If not, maybe you guys could go down and visit a couple of weekends. She'll be homesick at first, but once she settles into a routine, she'll be ok.

MizT that happened to D#1 several times. She wrote a story for PBS and they said it could not have been written by a second grader. The only thing, she wrote it at school while she was doing independent study and illustrated it. Her teacher was so blown away by it that she submitted it. They didn't believe her.

I am glad you feel better now Stella, I think it is an excelent opportunity for your daughter. she will learn to handle it and if she has problems, she seems mature enough to ask for help.

Stella, I think your daughter will do all right! And I think YOU will too! It sure sounds like this has been a tough year for you and your daughter. She has taken an EXTREMELY mature approach to the situation. It sure sounds like you have raised her well and she has a good head on her shoulders!

well, ladies, must run, hubby is inviting me to come watch TV with him
Later,

Some can be so shortsighted. Just because they don't have a talent/gift, they don't think anyone else does.

This year with D#1 as a freshman, we heard about her roommate and other freshman crying and being so homesick. I kept thinking that if college aged kids couldn't handle it, how will a 14yo. But I think you are right Becky, we will be visiting alot at first.

Night MizT. Nice seeing you here again.

Stella, in regard to D#1, has she done any writing since getting to college? It would be a shame if someone so talented lets the opinions of a few people steal that talent - or seal it up inside her. I hope she at least writes in a journal every day.

Bye MizT, thanks for coming back to chat!

Good night, MizT! Hope to see you again tomorrow!
Enjoy that movie with hubby!

Just remembering my first year in college. I looked at it as an adventure which surprised my family. Was shy and a little backward.

Stella, if possible, it is probably better at first to visit her at the school, rather than having her come home. There 's the time factor if she comes home (5 hours of her weekend) and letting her know that you are comfortable with her being there and not sending some kind of signal that you think you need to 'save' her every weekend by taking her home.

D#1 writes for the school paper and will probably be an editor in the Fall. She also wrote an epic poem in the form of Dante's Inferno that so impressed her honor's professor, that he said it was too good to be graded. It was above anything that could be graded. She was frantic when she got it back and there was no grade on it! She had to go and ask him if he forgot.

Interesting chat this evening...Stella, congrats on having raised a child who knows when to make changes in her life, and how to go about finding what she wants, getting financial aid and a school where she is near family. Pretty impressive!!! Teacher remarks can make or break a child. They can also spur the child into taking chances that the child may never have invisioned. Sometimes cold sounding remarks are put out as a challenge to a student...sort of to see what they are made of...teachers do need to be mindful that these can backfire and cause unexpected harm! Just had to get my 2 cents in..Its almost midnight now and I'm headed for bed. See you on the flip side!

Kudos to D#1.

Becky, I was like you when I went to college. It was a grand adventure where I got to reinvent myself. I was very shy as well. I don't think I was ever homesick.

Becky, you reminded me of my college. I went from a town of 5,000 to a university of about 25,000. It was about 2 1/2 hours away from home. Dorms were overcrowded, with 4 girls in a room designed for 2. Only 1 other person from my high school went to the same school, and I never saw him in 4 years. In fact, I thought he dropped out or transferred until last summer at our high school reunion. The first time I came home was for Thanksgiving.

Hi, bye Mamacita. Been missing you of late.