Sudokuaholics Anonymous 9A

I'm just like a bad smell, keep coming back and you can't get rid of me....

Cyn, if it were me I'd be sleeping at your house until he was found!!

Theresa, the guidelines I read here say that if a child needs touching it is okay to touch them. Risky though, really need witnesses around. On the other hand, I can't take anything out of a child's hand. I have to ask them to hand it to me.

Gail, yikes! No wonder she was dreading the appointment! Even if she has insurance that will cost and arm and a leg!

Cyn, did you know if you call their school planner a 'diary' DOCS can tell you that you're not allowed to read it? BS! If I think my kids is in trouble (drinking, drugs etc) and I need information to help them, I'll read whatever I want to read! Luckily I haven't had to do that... yet.

Theresa, I see a 4 hour nap in that schedule! Of course the 11am courier will be late, it's Murphy's Law.

Have I mentioned that one of my kids is teaching herself to play guitar and sing at the same time? Aaaaaaahhhhh!

When my daughter was in high school I must admit that from time to time I did some snooping in her room, being very careful to put everything back exactly as I found it. She was very secretive and I was concerned about her. I found some poetry she had written and it was very dark and somber and spoke of suicide. I brought it to my family doctor's attention in order to help her. To this day my daughter doesn't know I snooped. Sometimes you have to use your judgement and do what you think is right. If you're only looking to be nosy it isn't right, but if you have cause for concern I feel you have every right.

Suzy, might I suggest some ear plugs?

Theresa, you made the right decision and possibly prevented a tragedy. I can imagine that was a very tough time for your family. Some times government departments need a reality check!! I hope yours have more sense.

No, Suzy, our government is no better. The world has become too politically correct. Well, I'm going to catch a nap for about 3 hours before I have to call the courier. Good night friends.

Hope you are having a restful sleep Theresa.
Gail, if I wake up during the early hours I came and do the puzzles then go back to sleep. I can generally have a nanny nap during the day if I need it as well. Or 30 minutes in front of the TV!I hope you soon find Monty. If he is well fed he could sleep it off for a few days.

The tractor tire has been repaired!

CynB..... come back from the Dark Side. I have no regrets staying away from FB.

Theresa, I think that was abuse " back then", but nothing was done about it. When my siblings and I were small, Dad favored a keen switch from a privet hedge, they had long thin branches and he could get a good sized switch, I had stripes on my legs more than once for some imagined infraction. Older, he had a paddle, from a child's toy, rubber ball on a rubber string attached to a wooden paddle. He would buy us the toy knowing they would not last long and then he had a good supply of paddles. If you do not know what I mean, click here for a photo. http://www.officeplayground.com/Wooden-Paddle-Ball-P42.aspx

Broni, I disagree, the face is not for slapping, We have the perfect spot, seat of the pants, for a good swat then needed to get the attention of a wayward child. but there is such a thin line between what is needed and what is abuse.

CynB, I would not be sleeping in a house with a loose snake, no way! Me do not like snakes! It was bad enough when Scooter kitty came in yesterday with that lizard, much to snake like for me!

I think a good punishment today is to remove the batteries from all their toys hehehe. Geeze, kids today have to be plugged into something. The young man working yesterday had his iPod plugged into his ears, listening to his tunes.

Broni, glad the finances are going better now, To bad you have to work for it!

GAIL, sorry the daughter has so much dental needing done, Hope it all goes painlessly and does not totally wrech the budget.

OK, more chores needing done. I have accpeted I will not get everything done, and priortized. Would be nice if hubby could help, but not to be, shop work, so he gets to do some of it ALONE tomorrow.

I will get to puter long enough to say HERE I IS, probably sometime Friday. I can type one handed that much. Couple of people have my phone number, Vicky in California and Rolanda and perhaps Heidi?? If I do not report in, you can find me. BTW, Ro9landa, how did you find my number??

I will try to check in again later today, hugs to all.

Morning Heidi and MizT.

MizT, yes, it was abuse but we didn't know any better at the time because most of our friends were treated the same way. I came from a very strict European family and there was very little tolerated from children ... they were meant to be seen and not heard. Sometimes I was left guessing as to exactly what I had done wrong. We were not allowed to watch TV on Sundays or play games (my father thought games were too close to gambling), had to wear our Sunday best and not get dirty, go to church twice that day, no talking on the phone - the list goes on and on. I can remember getting a smack one time because I said "gee" and my father was convinced it was a short form for Jesus. I got a kick in the hind end one time because I said "what" to my mother instead of "pardon me". Some of the good old days were not so good.

Sorry for the rant. My father was not one of my favourite people and I was not one of his. The first time my then boyfriend (now hubby) met my father he realized almost immediately that of the four children, I was my father's least favourite. I had health problems as a child, I was an accident, and all this was held against me by my father. My mother on the other hand ... I adored her. She was a very sweet lady and I miss her terribly.

It wasn't until I was almost 40 that I realized that just because he was my father didn't mean I had to love him or even like him. I also realized at that time that I had spent most of those 40 years trying to do things to please him. This is why I worry about Cyn's Emily. I wouldn't wish that on anybody.

Wow, I'm a real motor mouth today!! Probably partially due to a lack of sleep. I am waiting for the courier to bring me some more work some time before 3:00; I have to go and let my daughter's dog out soon; I have the grandchildren after school. I already told hubby that I wasn't making supper tonight, that as soon as my daughter gets home and picks up the kids I am going for a nap. I AM SO LOOPY.

Okay, I'll try and be quiet for a while and give someone else a chance. TTFN.

MizT... I do NOT have your number. Wish I did. I'd given mine to you, as well as IH's, and during the ice storm you called on IH's phone. He no longer has that phone and saved no numbers from it. Could you PM your number to me?

Theresa, we have all had a rant on these pages at some time and generally feel better for doing so. We only got a smack if we really deserved it.
i have had about 4 hours sleep, done all the puzzles so will go back to bed.
There has been a lot on TV lately about this special foam on top of expensive mattresses that gets hot. That is what we have so I tend to get out and let the bed cool down. (and hope Hubby has not moved over to my side because his side has got hot!)

Hi June, what's the name of the mattress, do you know? There's a kind I see advertised on TV called Temperpedic I believe (I could be wrong). My mattress is too hard and I need a new one that's softer on the hips, but I definitely don't need one that gets hot.

Theresa, it is an Australian made one and very comfortable. The problem is this special 'memory foam' that is the top layer. It retains your body heat, even in winter.They have been using this on the top brand mattresses. If you get a new one get a wool or natural fibre top layer.

Good to know, June. At the stage of life I'm in, the last thing I need is something that retains heat, especially in the summer. It is the memory foam type I was thinking of getting, so thanks for letting me know of their disadvantage.

The tour is over!!! It went pretty well. The group was a little smaller than expected because one carload got lost between the Hog farm and here.

HEIDI, sent you a PM.

Theresa, I have the memory foam mattress and I love mine! The extra warmth if good for arthritis and fibromyalgia, I guess. It does get warm but I find that comforting instead of a disadvantage. Different strokes for different folks, you know.

Well, they did call with a time, must be there by 9 am, so surgery will probably be 10 or later. I do not like such a late start time, they do try to get everyone out by 2:30 and that seems to be rushing it a bit. Well, I will not be rushed this time, I left too soon after last same day surgery, and had problems later. Wanted me to come back to ER, yep, for another co-pay? If I was able to get to the ER I would not be needing their services, now would I?

Heidi, glad the tour is over, to bad a car of visitors got lost.

MizT... I sent you a PM right back.

Morning all!
I have no memory of being smacked as a child, threats of smacks yes, but not of actually being smacked. However, according to my mother I copped it more than I should have! A convenient memory block or it just didn't mean anything to me? I choose not to worry about it.

Theresa, I was lucky. My father died when I was 16. I felt a lot of guilt over being relieved that he had died, but I also understood why I felt that way and that helped.

MizT, hubby says he had to choose the 'switch'. It was a dilemma because if he chose one too thin and it broke too quickly he had to go get anotehr one. If he chose one too thick... well you know what I mean. It only happened a few times though, with a long gap in between. A work mate of hubby's in CA used/uses a paddle. There was a book out at the time recommended by his church that espoused 'spare the rod, spoil the child'. Mine got a smack on the bottom to get their attention.

I have vivid memories of being hit, slapped and punched by mother and stepfather. That includes broken bones. I'd rather not go into details because I try to keep those memories buried far back in my mind.

Hugs to you all, it sounds like you could use them. Only unconditional love here.

MizT, love and best wishes.

I only ever remember one true 'hiding', so I must have deserved it. In fact, I was even sent to bed without dinner. She swore she never did anything like that ever, but I'm sure it happened. I remember Mum coming in with something later on, that's probably why she said it didn't happen.

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Talk about payback!

That's a good one, Suzy.

IH just left for his plant. He'll be staying at his apartment for the first time. Of course, he hasn't bought any furniture yet, so he'll be sleeping on the floor in MY sleeping bag.

Heidi, it's parents like yours that have twice led to hubby having to prove it wasn't him who hurt our girls. Once when Ebob sprained her ankle at around 6 years old, then when Ally broke her arm at gym.

Heidi, I wonder if Gil will find time to at least buy a bed?

Theresa, I named my dog on farmville Splotch!

It's not the time, Suzy. He's too cheap to buy a bed. He really hates to spend any money at all.

A few nights sleeping on the floor might cure him of that Heidi!

Yes, Suzy, we had to go bring in the switch, usually crying the whole trip.

Heidi, your childhood was unspeakably bad, I am so sorry you had such happen to you.

Heidi, you didn't put itching powder in the sleeping bag, did you?

Like you Heidi, aside from my mother my childhood was not the best. There are things I don't even talk about because they are still too painful. As Gail says, it is what it is, and I think I've moved on quite nicely. Just sometimes little things pop up ..... such is life.

Well, I am shortly off to bed. Here's hoping I sleep most of the night. My thoughts are with you, MizT.

If not Theresa, someone will be here to play with!

Only a short walk this morning, though it was uphill and I am out of shape (well, there IS a shape but not one I like!), so I worked up a small sweat, so that has to be good!
D#3 and I have slackened off a bit, either she forgets to remind me or the other way around, and neither lets the other know they've forgotten...if you get my meaning. Tonight I'll take her on this walk I did this morning, maybe this will get us motivated.

No, I didn't put itching powder in the sleeping bag. He used MY sleeping bag, and I didn't want to mess up my bag.

Good morning you lovely people!
All this talk of parental discipline and it seems to me that, even though I remember my mother having a leather strap, she must seldom have used it or if she did, it didn't hurt much because I have no memories of any bad physical punishment. And, as I said, Dad never disciplined us - if we upset him, he told Mum to do it - that was my Dad, pass the buck so he came out smelling rosy!! Anyway, I had an idyllic childhood so there can't have been anything bad in there. I think I gave my parents more worry as a rebellious teenager - and I didn't rebel because I had a hard life only that I considered my parents dull, staid and boring - who didn't? Probably unfair in hindsight, they'd let us have parties, our friends almost lived at our house and loved my parents and many of those friends are still around and came to my Dad's funeral 4 years ago.