Sudokuaholics Anonymous 10

"I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life. I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life." I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I've learned that I still have a lot to learn. I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
— Maya Angelou

I have read that before Theresa, but it always worth reading again.
I used the cruise control last week when we went to the snow. I only like it when there are very few cars about as I do not feel I have complete control of the car.
Touch wood, I have not had a speeding fine in over 52 years of driving.
Bowls tomorrow, but a relaxing one as I am umpire so I can sit and watch the others play.
Just rang Leah, Glenn's daughter, and asked her to dinner Wednesday night. She goes home on Friday. If things had been different I would have liked to have taken her to a few different places sight seeing.

I'm sure Leah understands June and will remember the things you have done with her. enjoy the game of bowls, hopefully you will not have to make any decisions in the game.

I use cruise control allll the time. We are in an area of many small towns, and the limits change every 5 kms or so, and I HATE people speeding through my town, so neither do I! Plus it makes the speedies slow down if I am in front of them doing the correct speed to the dot!

Here they just get impatient and overtake. Never a cop around when they do.

I have cruise control, but use it rarely. I too have a lead foot, but the traffic going at different speeds on the highways makes it hard to stay at one speed long. I avoid tickets by making sure that there is one car going faster than I am so they get pulled over first. Otherwise, I don't go more than 9 MPH over the speed limit. I've only had one ticket in 40 years.

Hollie is improving steadily, surprisingly. She seems to be getting stronger, and is more responsive to me. She did freak out during last night's thunderstorm, but finally fell asleep on the bed at 4 am. I've stopped tranking her.... she reacts weirdly to 'em..... makes her drunk, but a loud drunk. She barks non-stop when I give her a half of one, which is the most she can handle. I was so sure last week that she wasn't going to make it more than a few days, and she's surprised me. She might even make it another year or two, if the next stroke doesn't get her. This stroke was her third or fourth, and the worst of the lot.

The power is now on in the Bunk House (Robert's place). The plumbing has been hooked up, but we haven't turned the water on yet to test it. We want to have a few people there, including the plumber, when we do, in case of leaks. That'll be done tomorrow at 11 am. Then Robert can move in.
When the plumber was working, he spotted a couple of cockroaches (EWWWWWW), so I just bombed the place while it's still empty and has no hiding places. I HATE cockroaches!!

Thought I had best check in fore someone looked around and realized I had not been here today! Just a lazy day today. After my long nap yesterday, I did not sleep much last night, was nearly dawn fore I got to sleep. Then the phone woke me fore I was ready to get up, although it was a reasonable hour for most people to be up and about, just not meI had a good book to read, so read the night away, been forever since I read all night.

Speeding: I am heavy footed, and the second minivan, one Al took for his work van, is one that just likes to go fast! The road to town has a speed limit of 40, and I would notice that car was comfortable going 60, be there in the blink of an eye. That is why he took that van (he never speeds) It is the same model, same year, same engine, but it just goes faster, go figure.

Speeding tickets: Never had one, but was pulled over twice back when I worked hospital. Once the officer saw me in uniform, I only got a warning. Bo6th times I was just so tired from a terrible day, I was not paying attention.

Police do not like giving nurses and doctors tickets. As one said, who had just come out of a coma while a nurse was shaving him, you never know when you might wake up to that nurse holding a straight razor to your throat!

YEAH, glad bunkhouse is almost ready for Robert to move in. I am sure he is also! It is good to hear that Hollie is getting stronger.

Time to make something for lunch, I hope to check in later. Hugs to each of you, with extras.

Hello all. I just got up from a nap - I was still exhausted from the weekend.

Oh, yeah.... the plumber told me about IH fooling around, too. He'd heard about it from yet another source.

Heidi, I would say you are the saint for not kicking IH to the curb.

I don't have any actual proof. Not that I can confront him with.

Hi All,
Nothing much going on here...but as I was reading, most of you made me feel guilty...I taught defensive driving, and instructed new instructors for over 15 years and always tried to instill the need for safety and patience meant that on occasion, one had to speed up or slow down, depending on different situations...that the speed limit was a respected guideline. However, I often fail to follow it...my foot seems to be really heavy. I've been lucky to never having had an accident or paying a price for the speeding in any way. I do not speed when traffic is heavy, in bad weather, or going through town...just on open roads, and as Heidi does, I try to have at least one or two cars going faster than I....
Good news that Hollie is doing better Heidi...Since you are still hearing about I H's Tomfoolery, I wondered if you had let him know that he wasn't fooling you? What was his response? You seem to in no hurry to go there and if I'm out of line..just tell me to back off, but I have been wondering,and bet I'm not alone, others are just too nice to ask....And I'm nosy. I don't mean any harm though.

I'm in no hurry to make a major scene. Once the can of worms is opened, it'll get ugly. I haven't said anything to IH, yet. As I said, I don't have any real proof, tho' I believe the stories. BUT, he COULD be innocent. That's why I'm taking my time. I want proof, first.

Heidi, I hope you are not upset about my comment. I just hate to see such a kind and caring person such as yourself being treated with such disrespect. But as you say, he is innocent until proven guilty. Just know that we are thinking of you. As you say, confronting him can only get ugly, and once it's out in the open there's no turning back. {{{HUGS}}}

Teresa, I agree that your offer to care for hubby's parents may be best for your family's long term emotional well being, but as you have learned, Care-giving is emotionally draining on those giving care. As we age and become physically frail, we often hurt those who love us most w/o really meaning to. If they had always been mean-spirited and selfish, you most likely wouldn't care as much for them. It speaks well that you do love them enough to offer your loving care. Its a really special gesture, but please don't think that doing it will make it unnecessary to placing them into long term care...that too is a loving gesture and should not bring grief or guilt to those who turn to it. When family has done all that they can at home and need these services, we can then continue to show our love by finding the best , affordable, clean, friendly facility with a well trained and compassionate staff, and to visit often at different times to keep them on their
toes,to let them know your loved one has interested, concerned family always close by. Guilt doesn't stand up to this kind of care... and when the end comes, all should have no regrets.
I'm doing a lot of talking here because I've walked in those shoes, and have learned that humans can only do so much...God will do the rest, if you believe. For those who are not believers, I don't know how they manage, but your Topp(A favorite of mine)says it all for me...we remember how we were treated....Peace!

Heidi...You are right...and smart to be sure rather than sorry...glad I asked because now we all realize that we need to take a step back and check things out before jumping into something just because we've heard it...It MIGHT be untrue! However, preparation
will make the following days and nights less confusing because we'll know what we must do.
This hold true in all relational matters, not just marriage.

The tractor mechanic just picked up my tractor! This is the first step to fixing it THIS time.

I have no problem talking about this here. I wouldn't have mentioned it first if it bothered me to talk about it. I can use all the advice and feedback I can get on this. It's important.

Mama, thank you for your words. I went through all this about 10 years ago with my mom, but in some ways it was easier because her dementia progressed quite quickly. When the dementia first started I would spend many nights with her (she forgot to take her medication, took too much medication, couldn't find the bathroom, etc.).

I too think a long-term care facility would be best for the in-laws, but they steadfastly refuse to go. They are both of sound mind, but it seems like some of their more negative traits (like stubbornness) are now exaggerated. I just don't like the idea of my hubby going through the rest of his life with the knowledge that his parents were upset with him at the time of their passing. I would do just about anything to give hubby some peace of mind. As I said yesterday, both his parents are quite frail, so I do not think my services would be required for a long time. They would still have their regular person coming in to do the cleaning, their daughter would get their groceries, etc. My main role would be just to be there. I haven't said anything to hubby, but I don't believe they will see another Christmas.

Good morning all
Heidi - I'm pleased that Hollie is improving. Also I agree that you need proof before you accuse IH or things could turn ugly.
Cruise control - hubby uses it. I occasionally hit the lever and notice it's on but since I don't know (after 5 years) what I've hit, it stays on until the next time the ignition is turned off.
Speeding - yep, I got booked for 131 in a 100 zone north of Brisbane years ago. Col and the kids rolled about laughing all the way home. Nice!!

It's always funny when it happens to someone else, eh Cyn?

Morning everyone

3 sleeps

A Cold Front is about to hit Perth, going to be a Wet and Woolly Day, Rain is just starting, the winds will not be far behind.

We have cruise control, I rarely use it!

However I do use the speed thingymejiggy that goes beep beep at me, if I go over the speed I set.

Hi all. Just stopping in before flinging food.
Heidi, I also hate cockroaches, and they grow big in Florida. I agree that until you have proof, don't say anything.
Tricia, glad you were able to read but sorry that you read through the night.
Don't remember much else. I will try to come back later.

My daughter and her family have gone to get a few groceries for me. My arm and shoulder have been really sore today, so they offered. What a nice surprise for me because I was not looking forward to going.

Back from the Lion's Club meeting. Fun as always. I drove, and IH expressed interest in looking at the new house, so we stopped in on the way home. He was impressed at it's roominess and condition.

And the fogger worked. There were a few small, DEAD, cockroaches on the floor. Not many, thank goodness, so we nipped this problem in the bud.

Shame you didn't visit the house earlier while the fogger was still going...

Come on Gail, finish your thought ...

Heidi, maybe he is hoping you will let him live there rent-free.

There are now baby Budgies in 3 different nest boxes. One is a definite keeper, one is a maybe, and all the others will be sold since I have a bunch of full siblings of theirs.

You think the fogger would work in the IH cockroach, Gail?

Hello again!
Chilly and grey in Old Melbourne this morning (hey, it's winter!)
Heidi, cockroaches really freak me out - they have NO redeeming features! Glad the house is working out well - it looks great in the photos. :)
About the cruise control - we regularly do long trips to visit Mum, so it's definitely useful ... great on country freeways. (110 kph)

Theresa, very brave of you, to think/go and look after your frail inlaws ♥

Theresa, very nice jester from your daughter. I know how I dread going out for anything when I am hurting, so I know how you feel. Hope the arm and shoulder feel better soon. Do you have your bag of peas and your rice sock handy?

Heidi, when the reports of Gil's infidelities come to you, do you hear anything about when and where they happen? Might give you a bit of information to follow up on, if you do. Just what would you consider proof, anyway?

Mine made it easy for me, he ordered flowers for her, and then did not pay the bill. I got a phone call from the florist asking for payment. I asked for a copy of the bill sent to me, with name and address of recipient. I really thought it was a mistake, found it a mistake of a different kind!

Rolanda, hope you are warm and dry. Nice day to stay inside and read.

Tami, when I was a teen, I often read through the night, summers or weekends. It is such a pleasure to read a book in one sitting. Did not manage that with this one, it is a much longer book.

A big funny on me, I was quickly selecting paperback books at the library, easier to hold than hard backs, and found one that looked to have about 500 pages, a nice long read. Once I settle in with characters and a good story line, do not want it to end, you know. Read it first, and after only 100 pages found it had FOUR short books in one cover. I was very disappointed. Did not read the other 3, since the first was a bit light weight in character development and story line.

MAMA, how interesting that you once taught defensive driving. Patience is a good thing to have when driving. Al has none, especially when in traffic. Me, I can entertain myself nicely while stuck in traffic, use the time for some alone time, let thoughts run wild, make lists of things I need to do, something. Hubby just grits his teeth and grabs the steering wheel tighter and grumbles, saying not nice things about the other drivers.

I made chicken soup for dinner for me tonight. Al did not eat his dinner last night, did a tube feeding instead since he ate real food at lunch. About once a day is his limit, so I did not have to cook for him. I am ready to eat, he still has a friend over, Al is working on the computer friend broke, again!

Hugs to each of you, with extras.

Hey Tricia.. yep staying indoors, reading would be a better option though, but decluttering is what I will be doing.

Rain is getting heavier, winds have not picked up yet ~ in the South West of the State, there has been damage, trees down...

Proof? A reliable eye witness, or me seeing something. So far, I've heard second or third-hand reports and unreliable witnesses. They may be well meant or they may be spiteful.

Not brave Rolanda, glutton for punishment.