Sudokuaholics Anonymous 9A

When you part with someone you care about, don't be shy. Give them a hug and tell them you love them. You just never know. Life can surprise you.

I may not be able to look you in the eyes, but I can see into your soul, I may not be able to hold you close, but I hold you in my heart. Love has no limits.

Awwwww Judeaa!

Yep, what eaa said!
Love you all!

Eaa, beautiful touching words. I feel the same.

The other thing is, one should always say I love you, because only once is it the very last time.

♥

Good morning all.

Suzy, hope Ally is better and her fever is down. It's hard to get teenagers to really open up to parents about their feelings. As mothers, what hurts them hurts us also. Sigh.

Just off to grab my first coffee. BTW, what does <3 mean? I know what it means mathematically, but ....

If you type that symbol on facebook it turns into a little heart...

Now it makes sense. I often wondered how you got the little heart on FB, and also other symbols like the music notes, etc. Thanks girlfriend!!!

BTW, I love everyone here and you're always here to listen to me, no matter how small the problem. My very own personal support group.

Hi everyone.
Suzi you are spot on with your comment about my other half.
I am very very busy with the Avon and the opening night would have been my 1st delivery day for Campaign 1 which is one of our Christmas catalogues.
But Avon aside, I will not bore you with too many details, as I could write a book, but I just could not stand any more comments about the use of petrol, travelling out to Tele Point to do rehearsals etc. etc.
I have had enough.
I am getting crap from both son and hubby at this time but usually I can rise above it and get on with it.
Not this time.
In the end my health will suffer, I just know it and then I will not be any good to do anything.

It was very difficult to have to tell Greta I was pulling out of the play and I know people will be disappointed but something had to give and it was the play.
There are other issues at play here too but I do not know why he persists with this emotional abuse which is what it amounts too.

Viv, I was just about to send you a PM but you said it yourself so I don't need to. It is spousal abuse and you shouldn't have to put up with it!!! What is particularly annoying is that your son is copying his abusive father. That is somewhere I think you should crack down for the sake of any future girlfriend or wife he might get. Says me who tried something similar and her kid left home! Though maybe that would be a good thing in your case... Hugs to you!! I know life is not this simple, but I wish you could just kick them both out and live the life you deserve.

Boy, that was one heck of a vent! Sorry!!!

Ally is up and moving for the first time today so must be feeling a little better.

Viv, Suzy is right. But I understand how you could feel something has to give. Why is it that so many times it is the wife who has to give in? If husbands want to do something, they will go out and do it no matter the cost, but wives are often expected to tow the line so to speak. I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I suppose all the driving for Avon is not a problem because it is bringing in money. Such is life ... the more things change the more they remain the same. If venting helps, feel free to vent any time here.

RESPECT - just sung on X-Factor, coinkidink...

Theresa, this isn't the first time for Viv.

Oh Bugger!
Don't know what to say, but Zusy and Theresa have said it all.
Love you all!
So there Dag!

Yes Zusy, RESPECT for your self!

Suzy, I have for a long time been trying to tell Ethan there are two sides to every story so to speak. I have tried this many times and you say to crack down on them but they just do not take any notice of me and say I am making a mountain out of a molehill.
There are constant jibes at me about lots of things but I definitely will not give up my Avon.
He wanted me to get a job, I tried, nothing came up so I took on the Avon.
Theresa, the problem is the driving for Avon as I go across to Wauchope which is about half an hour away etc. and that uses petrol!!!
He is a very controlling man but I will not give up my coffee and crosswords at Cafe 66 either.
He does not really like John and he does not like my girlfriend who has now moved to Old Bar about an hours drive away.
I went to visit her on Friday.


He is now 17 and I just have to hope that I have instilled in him some commonsense.

Oops I wondered where that last line went.
That was Ethan I was talking about there.

Viv, I don't know enough about your background because I am newer here. If there's one thing I can't stand it's someone who is controlling. I am so sorry you are going through this. Cafe 66 sounds like a nice spot with people who care, kind of like this site? Is John someone at the cafe? If I'm asking too many questions, just tell me to mind my own business! I really do care about people on this site. It's amazing how you can come to care about people you've never met.

Yes not the first time Suzy.
I thank god for my Avon that at least I can get out and about.
Life goes on, maybe one day I will do something about it.
Thanks for listening girls.

You rock Viv and don't let them tell you any different!! Your Avon is successful and more than pays for the petrol. I'm very very glad that you are not letting him choose your friends with the petrol excuse!!!

Theresa, no problems.
John is a 73 year old man who has never married and lives on his own.
He has been smoking since about age 12 and recently was told again, to give it up.
He has a growth on his lung, a small one, that has not got any bigger, yet.
His artery in one side of his neck is clogging up and he has had a major operation on this 9 years ago.
He has diabetes and injects himself every day.
He has depression and is on tablets for that.
He has been attending Cafe 66 every day between 10am and 12.30pm for 11 years.
I met him 2 years ago when I had to find another coffee shop as my gf left the one I used to go to.
I was doing a crossword in the daily paper and I could not do the cryptic. The one with 2 clues.
He offered to teach me and I became friends with him.
He has a sister who lives in Wauchope but who hardly ever sees him.
So I have taken him under my wing so to speak.

Viv, what Suzy said.

Hey Viv, just had a thought. Go to youtube and look for the song "According to you", hang on a sec and I'll find the link....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pu1aQvm5MrU

There you go. When I hear it I think she could have lived in my house... I hope it's not quite that familiar to you.

My husband does not really like him, he does not like me going there but I will continue to do so.
You would not believe the people I have met through John and the customers that I have met that order Avon.
Not to mention the waitresses who all order with me as well.
He said to me one day a while back, isn't the old boy dead yet?
And I said no, and if and when he does die you are NOT coming to the f****** funeral!!!!

Okay, I won't say it again because I'm getting repetitive.... naaaa.... I'm gonna... You rock!

Suzy, love that song!!!

Hopefully the Avon will bring in enough money for you to have a car of your own, with you covering all expenses, then there will be nothing left for him to find fault with.

Isn't it great Theresa? The 'according to you' stuff is soooo wrong, and the rest says 'but you're wrong and I know it!'

Well according to me...... you all Rock! Who could ever find a bunch of caring, supportive friends that some I have never met yet!

Ah, Viv, my heart goes out to you in this situation and I agree with a lot that has been said but, in the long run, it is your life and I think you are a strong woman (I've met you) and will deal with it your own way.
Keep doing what you are doing, you have every right to do so! And say hello to John.

Right on, Cyn!

Viv, everything is "easier said than done". When the time is right you will make whatever decision is best for you. Good luck, my cyber friend.

IH has done it again. He said that he was going to be home yesterday evening, and he has neither shown up or called.

I hadn't read the comments first.
Viv... wouldn't it be nice if we could stick our hubbies together, and the 2 of us could live together instead? (NO.... not in THAT way, you dirty minded people.) Yours is an abusive control freak, and mine in an inconsiderate, self obsessed, cowardly, penny pincher. They deserve each other.
Everybody else has stated it far better than I could, Viv.

Hi all.
Heidi, I was not thinking of you and Viv living together "in that way." I knew what you meant without you clarifying it.
Viv, thoughts going out to you. Be strong and remember we are here for you.

I have mentioned in passing some curve balls. A few of you know what I mean but I guess it is time to 'fess up. My husband was laid off a year ago and has been out of work since. Other than unemployment compensation and the occasional temp job, I have been the breadwinner, which has been very stressful. I have thought of Avon as a way to supplement, and make hubby do the deliveries, but have not gotten around to it yet. I don't know if I could be as successful as Viv but I keep thinking of her orders and wondering what I could do. I have thought of finding a part time job but I am trying not to kill myself. Between school, grading papers, baseball and all the other stuff with the kids, there is little time.

Sorry to hear that, Tami. I'm almost in the same boat, being the one supporting the family. IH may have a Parasitology business, and be part owner in a processing plant, but the plant has no profit yet, after nearly 3 years, and he contributes $800 every 2 or 3 months from his parasitology business. That's not enough to pay much of anything. Then he lectures me incessantly about the evils of me spending money on anything other than necessities.

Julie, if I ever were granted 3 wishes, one of them would be an instant transport machine! Always thought the " beam me up, Scotty" Idea was the best ever. I agree, would be so nice to visit, to help, to offer a shoulder or a hand to hold in reality.

Sounds like Julie had a treasure trove in her basement, lots of things for a yard sale or for Craig's list or e-bay. People will buy the most unusual things on e-bay and pay for you to shop to them, too.

Suzy, it they moved anything, that is a start, and our children may benefit from instant transport. but, please, do build in an OFF switch for each location, so none comes popping in while I am in the shower, or when my house needs gninselc hehehe.

TAMI, I could not sleep last night either, but i did not get back on computer like you, or we could have had a chat. I had that dreaded "not asleep, not awake" feeling after pain killers for the sciatica. I did not hurt, that is the good part, so I just lay there, till about 4 am, and a torrential drenching. I fell asleep at last listening to the rain. Would have slept longer this morning, but the furry alarm clock came in when hubby opened the back door. She Screeched me awake at 9 am.

NOLA, I do hope you are feeling better now. I was looking for a vaccine for scabies, online, and could not find such. Julie, was it you who told us about this? Can you tell us more?

Let me post this before I travel instantly to page 361 and loose a post.

Hugs to all and extras.

Believe it or not, IH just called!!! He decided to stay in Ohio another day and attend a memorial service for his cousin's daughter (the one who jumped from the bridge) this afternoon. He'll be back this evening, he says. I don't expect him 'til I see the whites of his eyes.

Viv, sorry I do not have time to phone you for a chat but I do know you have friends near you. I have also had coffee with Viv and John at Cafe 66. Viv is an an incredible woman. Hubby has the radio on so I am waiting for it to turn off!!!!
We have been to Belinda's place earlier and slashed paddocks etc befpre we laeve. Lots to do in the morning. Leave home about 2pm. (And will be in Honolulu at 7.45am same day)