Sudokuaholics Anonymous 11

Thinking of Zusy & Hubby and June for the best possible outcome.
Luv and hugs to you all.

It's not good at the moment. About half an hour ago, after I'd found out hubby was still in theatre's, a while bunch of alarms went off. A bit after that I got a phone call and we're taken to a private room. They cut an artery and he is bleeding out. They have a tonne of blood and blood products 'on the way' and 3 or 4 surgeons with him. He has a pulse is the best they can say.Alie is with me.

He didn't make it.

I love my kids. I've been holding back, only half crying. Not letting myself feel. They used stories to open me up. I'm sobbing like an idiot. That has to be a good thing considering I have something real to cry about.

I don't know what to say, Suzy. I wish I was there to hold you in my arms and comfort you.

I am sitting here feeling sick. Suzy, that is not the news we expected. I think of us sitting having coffee last week and I felt so positive for you. I am at a loss. Big hugs.

So sorry Suzy. May your family be surrounded with love xx

OH no, Suzy. Not what anyone expected to hear. Thoughts and prayers headed your way...

Suzy
It is so long since I have dropped in here and I am shocked to hear your latest news.
To say you must be devastated is so inadequate.
I just want to say that my thoughts are with you and the girls

for everyone - in a close knit group like this it is needed

As the others have commented, I, too, am in shock. Suzy, we are your friends and are with you in any way possible. Sending much and {{{HUGS}}} for you and your girls, especially, and for your grandies and extended family. Sincere condolences to all of you! I hope you can feel the warm cyber {{{HUGS}}} wrapping you in love and peace. You are in our hearts and thoughts! Please take care of yourself as best you can.

Alone. I have had people with me constantly since he died. Usually more than a few people. That has meant I haven't had a minute to just think and get my head around this. I'm only accidentally alone. Alie was going to go to Wollongong and inject Bren, then head back to me. Instead she spent more than 3 hours stranded on a train due to flooding. We couldn't even get to her because lots of roads are closed. The weather pattern covered from north of Wollongong to south of us. Apart from almost texting don that Gizmo was checking the window for him I haven't been too bad. But don't call me! I fall apart then!

Suzy... you need to grieve. You need to be able to let it out. You are in shock. You're not going to be able to get your head around this for some time. Don't try right now. Remember the good times. Remember how lucky you were to have a husband who loved you and tried to protect you... even overprotect you. I would have given anything for a husband like that. You have warm memories. Keep them alive, even though it's painful to think of your loss. Part of him will always be alive in your memory, and part of him will always be alive in your daughters and grandchildren. Tell them stories about him. He will always be with you that way.

Zusy, all my love and hugs are speeding their way to you. Just remember we are only a call away. Send my love to all the kids.

Reality is hitting home today. All I've been able to think about is that he's gone. The plans we had, the things I'll miss. Everyone around me has been thinking about how they can make sure I don't lose the house, how the bills can be paid. How to deal with the fact he didn't have a will and that he might not have submitted the paperwork making sure I'm the beneficiary of his super. Today I've had to answer questions about all of that too. My brother is going to take the car I'm not going to be using, detail it and sell it for me so I can pay some bills. We're not going to have a funeral because he didn't want one, but we will have a kind of memorial get together. Too many decisions, too much information. I cried all over his boss and work friend today. That's embarrassing!

Don's boss and coworker/friend game by this morning and we talked about him at work. They actually have a counsellor in the office because people are having such a hard time.

Darling Suzy,
The shock you feel would be indescribable!
All of us were looking forward to hearing how Don was coming along.
I wish that I had some comforting words but don't, except to cry and grieve in your own way.
Much Love to you and the Girls from Greg and Nola.

Suzy, our thoughts continue to be with you and the girls! You need time to process, to grieve, to share memories, to know how much he meant to so many people. We are here for you and sending love and strength and understanding. {{{HUGS}}}

Suzy - you are next of kin so house and super will go to you - so don't worry about all of this now - even if he was intestate, it just takes a little longer. Just do what you have to do to get by for a while. Thinking of you and your girls. A memorial sounds wonderful to celebrate his life and your time together. 000

From the other site.

I may have lost the love of my life, but I've still got a bunch of awesome people around me. Right now my grandkids are colouring in books provided by the people Don worked with. My kids are cooking eggs collected by my neighbour who chose to keep helping out even though we're home now. They are also cleaning and making me coffee. The younger one stopped me whenever I tried to do anything at all yesterday. She didn't finish anything, flitting from one thing to another, she is still really upset and couldn't focus, I just snuck in behind her and did what I could get away with. She is sleeping in my bed with me so I'm not alone, with a giant teddy dressed in one of hubby's tshirts between us. My eldest is doing a whole bunch of paperwork for me and making tonnes of phone calls. My brother is talking to solicitors for me trying to get me access to hubby's payout from work and his super. He's also planning on selling my car for me. His mother in law made me 24 serves of chicken soup to heat up whenever. My cupboards and fridge are overflowing With stuff brought here by friends and hubby's coworkers. And then there's the flowers... Funny thing though, every time someone does something nice I burst into tears.

Suzy, I think you're doing remarkably well! Don't worry about the tears; they're acceptable and expected. They just prove you're human. Let your family and friends do what they can to help you, as that is an important part of the process for them, too. Don't forget to eat and sleep, as you can. Feel free to come here any time to share whatever comes to mind. We're here for you, Suzy! Sending lots of and {{{{{HUGS}}}}} for you and the family!

I'll take you up on that because there was a kind of weird one today. My brother called and told me about this. My niece went home to her apartment last night and her good friend, who lives upstairs, said I need a couple of drinks tonight. I've had an awful week. My niece says, me too, my uncle died. And describes the circumstances. Oh my god, her friend says, did your uncle work at xxxx? That's why I'm having a bad week. My desk looks at his, I'm going to ask them to move me it's too sad, he was so nice to me. Everyone asked him for help with computer stuff. One day I asked him something and he didn't know. He went back to his desk and a couple of hours later told me he'd worked it out. He did that for me!

Very sad, yet bery nice, Suzy. It's good to hear about the wonderful influence Don was on other people's lives, too.
More ((((( HUGS ))))).

Okay, it's time for you to start talking about fun, trivial, every day stuff again. So I can come here for a few minutes distraction. But I love you guys for being so caring and supportive! You have no idea how much it has meant to me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Suzy, I understand how you feel about the support from Sudoku friends. It meant so much to me when Sharon was ill and then passed away.
How are you coping with all this rain. I think you might have to look for another horse to keep the grass down.

I have Steve and Laura coming for dinner tonight. It is his birthday tomorrow. I will cook a leg of lamb with baked vegetables. There is a Sara lee apple pie (won at the bowling club) in the freezer so that will do for sweets.

Two whammies today. I dropped Alie at the train station so she could celebrate her 2 year anniversary with Bren and decided to pick up some dog food on the way home. Got my first in public 'sorry for your loss'. Then I decided to finally get on the computer to do the online banking thing and print off the statements dana and my brother need. Only to discover that hubby only left the information for one account. The one I'd need for his week in hospital. There will be a way around it, but not on a Sunday and not when I can't make a phone call without sobbing.

Suzy, these things will happen. People feel they need to say something or just give a hug. They want you to know that they care. It would be even harder for you if nobody said anything. You have been finding out just how important Don was. Do not worry about the tears.
Wish you were closer and you could have joined us for the lamb roast.

Kinda risky (Risqué), but I'll risk it...

A college class was told they had to write a short story in as few words as possible. The instructions were: The short story had to contain the following three things:
(1) Religion
(2) Sexuality
(3) Mystery

Below is the only A+ Short Story in the entire class.

“Good God, I’m pregnant; I wonder who did it”

Good one DOA!
Bella was at the vets on friday, back legs gave up. She is on tablets that are helping, looks like it's arthritis.
Luv and hugs to all.

Poor Bella. A big heavy dog not to have the use of her back legs. Hope the tablets continue to help.
Good one DoA.

Hi, Everyone! Just checking in briefly, as the evening has slipped away and I need to get some sleep. We are going to an orchestra concert tomorrow.

Suzy, it is indeed a small world! How amazing is it that your niece's good friend knew and worked with Don!

June, some excellent advice from you to Suzy!

DOrA, what a great joke!

Broni, I'm glad to hear that there are tablets that help Bellla!

Heidi, id the calf season nearly finished?

And, I'm off! But first, here are some , healing energy, prayers, {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, and positive thoughts for ALL!

My computer is back, at least some of the time. I thought I posted this last night, but do not see it. I was exhausted when I tried. Had to call medics for daughter, besides her problem with not sleeping and all that brings on, she had all the symptoms of a severe UTI. she would not walk with me to the car for me to take her to ER, but said she would go with medics, so I called them. she is not making good decisions at the moment. Besides the UTI they were treating with powerful antibiotics, she got pain medication, and Cat scan found swelling, so more tests. I hope for news this morning, I stayed with her, as slong as I could. Her sister came up too so I did not have to drive. Only 3 or 4 blocks from me, not a long trip.

Any thoughts, prayers, healing energy you have to spare would be appreciated.

Hugs to each of you, hope this post goes through.

Broni, I hope the pills work for Bella, she still seems to have a lot of life in her, meaning Joie de Vivre.

MizT, I'm sorry to hear your daughter is not doing well, both physically and mentally. Hopefully when they sort out the physical, the mental will improve.

My brother is incredible. I think he is planning on paying my bills until hubby's work payout comes through. He's not saying that but keeps telling me not to worry. Anyway, today he works the conversation around to whether or not stress played a part in my strokes and am I at risk right now. I made the mistake of saying he'd reminded me to cancel the appointment I have coming up because I'll have to come up with well over $100 for it. I get some back but have to pay up front. Oh no you're not, he says. Now I know he's planning to pay for it if that's what it takes to get me there so I said, I guess that's where the money from Phil and Trish will go. Two friends sneakily left money under something on my bench.

Sleeping a lot, between doing dow checks and watching basketball. Kentucky has made it to the Sweet Sixteen of the NCAA tournament. Next they face an excellent UCLA team. Win or lose, it's going to be a great game.

How is Bella doing now, Broni?

Running on empty here, and an early alarm to get ready for an appointment. Sending everyone healing energy, , {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, prayers, and healing energy!

Gekko my friends.
Zusy glad you have good friends and family.
June how are things going with you.
Heidi, prognosis not good for Bella. After improvements for 4 days she lost use of her back legs yesterday arvo, she starts on steriods tonight and i should know within 2 days.
Luv and hugs to you all

Hugs Broni! This is as hard for you as it was for me when we found out hubby was sick.

Hi, Everybody!

MizT, we're glad your computer is better and you're able to get here, at least sometimes. So sorry to hear Tanya is having physical issues. Certainly hope they can work out medications that will help all her symptoms! We found out between hubby's surgeries how serious a UTI can be. I hope those antibiotics help her as much as hubby's helped him! When she can start sleeping better, there may be a major turn-around! Keeping her in thoughts and prayers!

Suzy, you are blessed with wonderful family and friends! Remember to let them help you! Take as good care of yourself as you take care of the girls and your grandies! And don't worry about tears; they will come at logical times, but also when you least expect them. It only shows that you are human, which is something we all expected. If lists are helpful, you can make a list of things that need to be done and set priorities. Everything doesn't need to be done at once. Remember, we're always here to 'listen' and 'chat.' Keeping you and your girls in our thoughts!

Heidi, I hope you're feeling better and the sleep is helpful! Good luck to Kentucky in the basketball tournament!

Broni, I'm sorry the first tablets didn't continue to be successful in treating Bella! Hopefully the steroids will make the difference for her!

June, how are you feeling? Have you had a prognosis on the success of the treatments? Hoping for good news for you!

Sending HUGE {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to Everyone! Also included are positive thoughts, healing energy, prayers, and !