Sudokuaholics Anonymous 11

Please Pass The Biscuits.
When I was a kid, my mum liked to make breakfast food for dinner
Every now & then & I remember one night in particular when she had
Made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening
So long ago, my mum placed a plate of eggs, sausage,
And extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting
To see if anyone noticed!
Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom
And ask me how my day was at school.

I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing
My mum apologize to my dad
For burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said:
'Honey, I love burned biscuits.'

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him
If he really liked his biscuits burned.
He wrapped me in his arms and said,
'Your mummy put in a long hard day at work today and she's real tired.
And besides... A burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!'

You know, life is full of imperfect things... And imperfect people.
I'm not the best at hardly anything,
And I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else.
What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others
Faults and choosing to celebrate
Each other’s differences, is one of the most important keys
To creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

So...please pass me a biscuit. And yes, the burned one will do just fine!
And please pass this along to someone
Who has enriched your life...I just did!

Life is too short to wake up with regrets... Love the people who treat you right
And forget about the ones who don't.

ENJOY LIFE NOW - IT HAS AN EXPIRATION DATE!

Greetings and Salutations!

Suzy, I totally understand the hair styling difficulties. My hair is also curly, but also very fine and thinning. I decided to try to grow it in the hopes that more/longer hair would help it look fuller. If I go for a trim, the question is usually if it's time to cut it shorter. (It has always been short, until now - nearly shoulder length, the longest it has ever been.) It doesn't seem to matter if it's long or short, it NEEDS to have products put on it. I have even asked that there be NO styling, as I just want to go home and re-wash it to get out all of the little loose, itchy ends. It never seems to work.

Nola, how nice to see you have had a chance to visit. I second MizT's suggestion that you keep posts shorter, but a bit more frequent - even 3 or 4 short ones in a row are fine! I hope your trip to Tasmania can be a little bit of fun, not just work/mowing. I assume you'll be back home for the holidays.

MizT, I hope your headaches improve with each day. It seems they are an unfortunate accompaniment to a procedure that works for you. I wish you didn't need to deal with them for a week or more each time. I hope Tanya is feeling better. I agree, it's still hard being a mother, even of an adult child. I hope you also is feeling better.

MIzT, I was also wondering about the possibility of a pregnancy as being the necessity for speed in getting the divorce. I suppose a 'premature' birth could 'explain' a pregnancy of less than 9 months, but anything less than 7 1.2 months wouldn't look so good for a good Christian family. I apologize if our skepticism about Gil and his motives is uncomfortable for you. As MizT said, we don't want to see you hurt, and we DO want you to have a comfortable life post-divorce.

My goodness, Midge is on the same wave length considering the 'rush' that seems evident. All the best to you, Heidi, as the judicial wheels begin to turn.

DOrA, I have enjoyed your stories, as usual! They may not be as new as freshly fallen snow, but they are told with a fresh perspective, and enjoyable for al of us. Thank you for sharing!

The best of all became the TOPP for this page. It seems particularly appropriate now. There's some excellent advice: 'Learning to accept each others faults and choosing to celebrate
each other’s differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship. Life is too short to wake up with regrets. Love the people who treat you right
and forget about the ones who don't. Thank you!

Sending positive and hopeful thoughts, , {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, healing energy, and prayers for all!

It was hard enough getting Gil to agree to what he has without it being contested. I'm concerned that he may be so tight that one final demand/request will cause him to contest the terms. Then, Kentucky law gets ugly. And I don't think I could handle a prolonged fight and trial. And I don't see how I could get a better deal than he's agreed to now. Under Kentucky law, if a divorce is contested, EVERYTHING considered community property has to be put up for auction, and the proceeds split equally between the 2 parties. If I want the house, I'd have to bid on it in open auction. Same with the farm land. At this point, I have the house and the lion's share of the land. And all the farm equipment. And the cattle. And horses. And money from his social security. And the land gives me the ability to earn an income off of it. AND I WILL BE FREE OF GIL!!!!!!

Julie. for the record, the last three on the prevoius page were to get to the top of this page. If that makes sense...

The Devil whispered in my ear 'You are not strong enough to withstand the storm'. Today I whispered in the Devil's ear 'I am the storm'. Power to you Heidi.

Well, he's already trying to change the agreement. He wants ALL the money from the sale of the calves (+/- $25,000.00, since prices are down) to pay past due taxes, late fees, penalties and interest that he's accrued by being constantly 4 years behind on taxes. I've agreed to pay my share of the taxes, but NOT his share or all the penalties that he's caused which have more than doubled the amount owed. I told him today that if he started playing this game, we would commence discussions of alimony. I need that money to survive.

His penalties, his problems, How did he react to alimony? go girl.

Hi, Everyone!

Yep, DOrA, it makes perfect sense to get the right comment in the correct place. Well done, and great TOPP!

Midge, yours would also make an appropriate TOPP! Yep, Heidi, BE the storm! You go, Girl! You deserve whatever you can get. Your reasoning is valid! Our hearts are with you!

It's a late night, and I need to make up for a basically sleepless night last night. Sending {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, , healing energy, prayers, and amazingly positive thoughts for everyone!

I hope things don't get ugly Heidi. You have worked so HARD all of your life, where Gil has made it even harder for you. Do whatever you can to get your fair share, without causing more stress on yourself.

Heidi, can you get him to direct all requests to your lawyer? She might scare the arrogance out of him.

Fb has an on this day feature. You can look back to things posted on this day in previous years. I just checked mine and found a comment from mamacita. Happy/sad.

I like that idea, Suzy. Thanks.

I miss Mamacita SO much.

Checking in. Headache returned this morning about 20 minuets after I got out of bed. Yesterday was a much better day, only bad headaches twice, 2 hours in morning, 1 hour in afternoon. Slept 8 hours last night. That is good. Today I feel as if I am backing up, not good.

Today I phoned my PCP and he ordered a steroid dose pack. If headache is irritation to the epi dural space, this should cure it. So far, it has lessened the severity a tad, but has not stopped for even one minuet. I may not sleep because of these steroids, so very good I got a good night last night.

My sister got her epidural today, when I heard from her said no pain in back and leg, that her muscles were very sore, perhaps from the severity of spasms she had for so long. Hope when the local wore off, she was still pain free and did not have to wait for the steroids to kick in in 36 to 72 hours.

Tanya still has bad sore throat. not sure how much she is sleeping, I fear not much. Usually I can tell when I talk to her. she has stopped talking with me, just txting. Maybe so Mamma cannot tell? I sure hope not.

I ordered groceries online today, through Public's. Actually one of the staff did the actual ordering, I just gave her a list. I got the items I wanted, only problem was quantity in 2 instances. got less than ordered.I am just wondering how much more I will pay for these groceries than same at Aldis, I know it will be more, but atm the alternative would be hiring someone to go to grocery for me, it can't be more than that would cost. So glad this program is available to us, and we do not have to pay the once a year program fee, EP does that with one membership we all use.

My housekeeper cooked some fish and some beef patties for me. I should have planned overs for another 5-6 days now. surely this headache will be gone by then?? I hope, I pray, I wish.

Heidi, I like Suzy's idea also! Your lawyer could screen you from a lot of his BS and really lower your stress.

OK, time to get ready for bed, I hope I can at least lie still and quite to help this head. It is beginning to be a bother.

Hugs to each of you, with extras.

I miss her too, Heidi. I am so glad for the time we had with her. she was a special individual.

I had to work cattle yesterday from 9 am to dusk. Definitely over-did it. Every muscle in my body is screaming at me, particularly the back, legs and left shoulder. I just finished covering myself in liniment.
One interesting thing came out of it yesterday. We had 2 young bulls to cut since I will no longer be able to raise them up to sell for breeding stock. Ended up with 4 enormous ''Prairie Oysters''. Timmy gets his pills for his epilepsy stuffed into meat, them microwaved each night (so the juices soak into the pills), and last night he got the pills in a Prairie Oyster. Cooked, they look, smell and taste a bit like sausages. (Yes, I've eaten some.) Timmy thought he'd died and gone to Heaven. He gets another one tonight.

Just a quick hello!

Excellent observation, Nola! Hopefully the divorce proceedings don't add a lot of stress to Heidi!

Suzy, great suggestion to have IH present all requests to Heidi's attorney, NOT directly to Heidi! Thanks for sharing about the 'on this day' feature on Facebook! And thanks for sharing that yesterday's was a comment from Mamacita! I think we all miss her more than we know. She always had excellent advice and shared it lovingly! I think the U.S. could have benefitted from advice and suggestions she might have shared during the recent crazy political mess we have dealt with! I feel so blessed to have known her, even though we never met. What a very special person she was!

MizT, I hope a good night's sleep will result in fewer and shorter headaches tomorrow!

Heidi, I'm sorry you had such a difficult day working the cattle! At least Timmy benefitted from the 'misfortune' of the 2 young bulls. I've never had a 'Prairie Oyster' and don't know that I could eat one.

I'm falling asleep at the keyboard. Have only had about a total of 4 hours of sleep in the past two days, so I'm off o bed. Sending healing energy, positive thoughts, {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, prayers, and for each of you!

Anyone remember my friend Cathi, who in the past sent me some cherished items (the totally hand sewn 1950's era 'old lady' quilt' found in her mother's closet, the lovely red hand knot throw, and a ring from her aunt) when she was having medical problems, did not want to chance those going to dysfunctional relatives if she did not recover, relatives who would fight over it, use for a dog bed or toss it in trash , depending on who was first on site. She has no children, an ex husband with HIS children, no one who would cherish some of her things as she does. she contacted me today, wants to return the Comfort quilt I put together for her, made from blocks my quilting group sent to her one at a time during her chemo. She is facing multiple unknown health problems again. quilt had been on loan to a friend during HER chemo and was just returned to her. In both of them, the cancer is gone now. this last lady added a pillow case to go with quilt, in similar pattern, and a label telling the story of the quilt . Cathi says there is such comfort in that quilt, that she could feel the love, prayers and good wishes that were stitched by these 20+ quilters. We decided she could return it to me, I would keep it for her IF she ever wanted it again, but in mean time it should go to another woman on loan, a woman with one of the cancers of 'lady parts' (her words) as first choice, or any woman who might need it's comfort. There is one here now, well, 2 actually. I need to see which one would appreciate it, get comfort from it, and care for it, return it when cancer is cleared, or family would return if she lost that battle.

Well, somehow lost the other half of that post, I am sure it was operator error. I will try to remember some of it.

Up for intermission, courtesy of steroids. but I did sleep a couple hours, and hope to go back for more.

Heidi, I too like Suzy's idea, Let Gil contact you through your lawyer. Might really reduce your stress.

speaking of stress, could you share with your lawyer what working cattle today did to your body? In Alabama( wish you had better divorce laws) that would go far in determining who got the benefits of that labor, the profits of calf sale that Gil is wanting. Maybe she can use it somehow to convince Gil to back off?? also, does she know Gil is now without a lawyer? Might be important, depending on laws. Remember some something about that from mine.

Fish Stephanie cooked for me today was delish. Had for dinner with steamed Brussels sprouts, sliced tomatoes and Stephanie baked sweet potatoes for desert.

June, I hope all is going well with you, with Julie and her hubby and every one else

OK, back to bed, see how that works. headache gone at the moment, back pain gone, should mean a nice sleep?? It is about 3 am here and I can sssleep in tomorrow, no appointments or phone calls first thing. Hugs to each of yo, with extras.

Suzy, I have been avoiding that FB feature at the moment. Sept 17 is five year anniversary of Al's death, do not want to read some of my posts from that time.

Hi, Everyone!

MizT, I hope you find the right temporary home for the healing quilt! What a wonderful thing to be able to share!

Just a quick hello, then off to bed. Need to get hubby to outpatient (surgery follow-up appointments) tomorrow. With 2 appointments & blood draw, will be there for at least 1, maybe 2 bag-empties, a snack, and lunch. I don't know how we're going to do it, but I won't be able to function without sleep, so heading to bed in a moment.

Sending {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, healing energy, , prayers, and positive thoughts.

Bring a good book, Julie. And good luck to both of you.

Hello my friends,
Have read all your comments and thinking of you all.
Had no phone or internet for over a week.
Take care.

A little 'levity', perhaps...

God Loves Drunk People Too

A man and his wife were awakened at 3:00 am by a loud pounding on the door.

The man gets up and goes to the door where a drunken stranger, standing in the pouring rain, is asking for a push.


'Not a chance,' says the husband, 'it is 3:00 in the morning!'


He slams the door and returns to bed.


'Who was that?' asked his wife..
'Just some drunk guy asking for a push,' he answers.
'Did you help him?' she asks.


'No, I did not, it's 3am in the morning and it's bloomin'well pouring with rain out there!'


'Well, you have a short memory,' says his wife. 'Can't you remember about three months ago when we broke down, and those two guys helped us?


I think you should help him, and you should be ashamed of yourself!
'God loves drunk people too you know.'


The man does as he is told, gets dressed, and goes out into the pounding rain.


He calls out into the dark, 'Hello, are you still there?'


'Yes,' comes back the answer.


'Do you still need a push?' calls out the husband.
'Yes, please!' comes the reply from the dark.


'Where are you?' asks the husband.
'Over here on the swing,' replied the drunk.

Gil and I sat down together and ironed out the last few things we have been squabbling about.... and he admitted that I was being fair to him. Now we just need to put it in writing and give it to the lawyer to finalize. I just hope he doesn't try to change anything again.

Heidi, Good idea to get it in writing and to lawyer. I hope he will not change his mind once again. I am sure you have been more than fair. Glad you 2 were able to talk this out. Unusual for Gil, he really must want this to move forward quickly.

DORA, an oldie but goodie, and I still got a chuckle. I really needed one tonight.

Bronie, as I said on FB, glad you are connected once again, and hope you enjoyed your sojourn in the lake area.

hugs to each of you, more to follow

BIG VENT TO FOLLOW, read or not.

T and her younger sister are in Emergency Room. they did see triage nurse within a reasonable time after arrival, ER did an EKG cause she was complaining of heart racing, pounding. It must have shown she was in no danger of dying soon, cause they sent them back to waiting room. SIX HOURS AGO.

T's lack of sleep caught up with her, she was barely functioning. She called me at 8 am to ask first how was I this morning, I am sure waiting as long as she did to phone so she would not wake me. she had not slept even one minuet all night, had cleaned her closet.

then she said she thought she needed to go to ER, but first there was some business about her car that HAD to be sorted or she could loose her car. NO WAY I could drive , with meds I had just taken, and headache that can come back at will, still not able to stand or sit in same place for long. While talking to her, she was at times incoherent. Scared me big time. So I called daughter #3, J for short. Hoped she could take care of the car problem via phone, and then we could find a way to get T to ER, by taxi if necessary.

J starts investigating. She phoned doc, then the bank. Turns out a live body was required. At bank and dealership. Twice to each, to correct some glitch between bank and dealership that they did not get correct once again. someone did not get it right first time or the second, third and not sure how more times I did not hear about during this previous week. I heard earlier in week from T she made at least 2 or 3 trips already. J took off work and did the driving.

When this back and forth across town was finished, it was past lunch, so they ate, made ER at 3 pm, along with a waiting room full of people. Too many doctor offices are cutting back to 4 ten hour days a week, no Friday office hours. People show up at ER with no other place to go, some for minor problems or no real problems at all really. anything not life threatening is first come, first served. After 6 hours, T told the desk she was leaving, could not stay any longer. ER person conveniently found T was next in line to go back. So, at 9:30 pm, they are waiting in treatment room for a doctor. Catch the times? 13 1/2 hours since she phoned me.

another big problem, J called ahead to T's doc office way early AM, no way they could see her today, left message for doc that they were going to ER. HE did not bother to leave any orders with ER . she could have been admitted under his care with orders in place, could have bypassed ER altogether. But that office is notorious for not even listening to messages, let alone acting on them. You might remember once before (I think I shared here in another vent) it took our social worker here at EP to contact that office for a needed medication, again for sleep, after yet another medication change. the doc should know she has trouble with medicine changes, and should have access to nurse practitioner during those times. Also, y

Also, you just do not need to get sick on weekend.

Midge, this ER wait is just why I did not go to ER last weekend when I had that problem, knew I could not sit 6+ hours in ER, to be seen by an overworked doc for perhaps 5 min, who would be forced to make a snap judgement without all the puzzle pieces, history, complaint, etc. My hospital is a bit better handling their ER, she unfortunately had to go to the big teaching hospital, that handles everything, drug overdoses, all the severe accidents from car crashes, falling off a cliff, building collapses, gunshots from drive by, heart attacks, strokes, burns, flesh eating bacteria, everything. Not a good place to be on any weekend, but so near that supper moon full moon? As J txt me, lesson learned, not that time, day, or hospital ER ever again.

OH, they have reduced the wait time. Nephew previously had to wait 10 hours to be seen!

My big problem, other than how my baby girl is doing, is the incompetence of people doing jobs we rely on, doing the job so poorly.

It is now 10:25, have not heard anything further, so almost an hour wait in treatment room to get anything done. I need to take my sleeping pill and go to bed soon, but doubt i could sleep if I tried. perhaps I should wait later, and at least get some sleep in the early hours. If I take sleep meds now, and either get awakened when they phone me, or just can't go to sleep for worry, I could not repeat, I am having to take the 2 tablets at bedtime now. OH well, I got a good 8 hours last night, thankful for that, or I might be up right along T with sleep deprivation illness. AAAAGGGGGHHH

Thanks for letting me vent here, whether you read or not. Just 'talking to someone' has helped a lot. I am even getting a bit sleepy, so to recliner with a book, and if I fall asleep, so much to the good.

Really big hugs!

Dana just told me the update on a friend of hers. Her fifth child, first with her new partner, has cancer. He is 10 months old and has never left the hospital. They have found a bone marrow donor in Europe. This procedure has a 20% chance of success. So she is balancing the needs of four young children with a seriously ill baby.

Just re read DorAs joke to cheer myself up.

MizT, what an horrific experience for t and j. I hope things are sorted now.

Suzy, not yet. It is early am now, 12:30. they have called for a r
esident in her needed specialty 'but it may take a long time'. I have given up, taken meds, so am off to bed now. wil know something when I know, no need t fret about it.

Hi, Everyone!

Greetings to Broni! How nice to see a post from you! You are missed, but we're glad to know you are well and have had some enjoyable moments!

Heidi, I took a few newspaper sections, as they weighed less than a book and I had so much else to carry. We took walker for hubby, but during the hour and a half drive realized the day was too long and there was too much walking involved for him to have enough energy, so we got a wheel chair. (Good decision!) We had to bring food for his mid-morning snack, lunch, and mid-afternoon snack, plus clothes in case of an ostomy leak, equipment for a change in bag, etc., 7 pages of notes recording 3 weeks of output into 2 bags, temperatures, blood pressures, etc. I suggested using a rolling suitcase, which hubby disagreed with, so had 2 bags of stuff. Since he was in the wheelchair, the bags were probably easier than a suitcase would have been. The good news is that the Foley catheter is removed!

DOrA, enjoyed your 'levity.' Sometimes we all need a 'push' of one kind or another . . .

Heidi, here's hoping Gil doesn't change his mind again, and the agreed upon items can remain agreed upon long enough for your attorney to get them in writing! He certainly seems to be in a hurry. Wishing you all the best as you move through this nightmare! {{{HUGS}}}

MizT, speaking of nightmares, what a day you and your Ds have been through! Hopefully T finally was seen and given something to help her symptoms. Unfortunately some doctors offices operate like a teenager with a phone. They see your phone number come up, but never listen to the message, just eventually call you back but with no idea why you called in the first place. It's INCOMPETENCE spelled in all capital letters!

I agree that a teaching hospital can sometimes add additional time to services rendered! We faced that today when we had to get there almost 2 hours before appointment so they could draw blood for labs - even so, there were no results for the 10:40 scheduled appointment (finally saw the nurse practitioner over an hour late). Next appointment was scheduled for 1:00, which wasn't running quite as late, but still only saw a nurse practitioner. And the labs still weren't done. We will need to go back another day for more lab work, return visit to surgeon and a week later for renal ultrasound. Each trip takes a total of about 3 hours on the road. Thank goodness we are all well enough to be able to advocate for ourselves!

MizT, I hope you are sleeping soundly, and hope Tanya and J are as well! Tomorrow is another (hopefully better) day!

Sending positive thoughts, {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, , prayers, and healing energy for everyone!

Just saw the posts from Suzy! So sorry to hear what Dana's friend is facing! How can you possibly choose one child over another? Can the donor come to the child, rather than having to take the baby to be near the donor? I hope there are family members available to be of help! Will say some prayers for the baby.

Good night, Friends! May tomorrow bring better news, good weather, and happiness!

sleep well MizT

I have been very busy so have not posted. Had a lovely time in Wollongong and caught up with Bluey and some of Ken's relies.. Wednesday was a Harbour Cruise with people we worked with over 50 years ago. Seems funny talking to someone who is now a professor and I taught him lab techniques when he first left school. It was a beautiful sunny day on the harbour. Thursday was Chemo and yesterday a lunch (district presentation day for bowls. Then grocery shopping. I was very tired and slept a lot today. I am also dog sitting Belinda's dog and she is an inside dog and quite a bit of work.

Enough of me. Tricia, I am sure everything is sorted now but how frustrating for you and your daughters. I do hope T is now OK. We have to wait at ER but if you wait more than a couple of hours it seems like ages. I was about 2 1/2 hours when I broke my arm a couple of years ago. I do find that you are assessed quickly with the triage nurse though. Our ER is about 15 minutes drive from home.

Julie, I am sorry you have such a long drive to Hubby's appointments. I am having all my tests, Doctors appointments, bloods, treatments etc. at our local University hospital which is only 10 minutes drive away. It makes life so much easier. My thoughts and prayers go out to you both as you go through this difficult time.

Heidi, when all this is over just think how much calmer your life will be.
Suzy, prayers for Dana's friend. Hard to think of sick babies.
Nice to see you still enjoying all your travels Broni.

Thanks for so many reading my vent and commenting. I will get back to each of you later.

T is still in the /ER. They are keeping her for the remainder of the night, it was 3 am before she got an injection to make her sleep. ER docs will 're evaluate' her in the morning. J has gone home hopefully to sleep. I have been up and down all night for meds, visits to the necessary room, maybe slept 5 hours by now, hard to know for sure. Enough to get me through another day, if necessary.

June, you have had a busy week. I hope you do rest again tonight. Hope you enjoyed all the activities, well, except the chemo.

Julie, when I had to take my hubby to doc appointments, it was valet parking for us reduced rate cause we were considered handicapped, wheel chair for him pushed by transportation aide, and a walker for me. Walker had big compartment under the seat for his necessities, but I did see many rolling suitcases throughout the clinic facility. Hope next trip will be easier! Yea for no foley cath! One less bag to change, measure, leak.

Too sleepy to finish, back to bed once again. a yo yo kind of night. My mind much easier knowing t is being observed at least for a bit more today. Hope to he77 they do not go in and wake her, let her get a LONG sleep.

hugs

Please give T a hug from me when you see her next, MizT. That's quite the ordeal she's going through.
You'd think hospitals would add to their ER staffs so nobody would have to wait so long in pain and fear. I've never had to wait more than 5 minutes for triage, and 30 minutes to see a doctor at my favorate hospital's ER. The last time I had to go to an ER was to a different one, and it took 5 hours before I even saw a nurse..... and the ER was nearly empty.

I sold several bred cows shortly after noon today to a young friend who's admired my herd for years. I sold them for the going rate at the stockyard, so he got a very fair price. And he's thrilled. Rede went off to his new home about an hour ago, too. I was SO proud of him. We showed him a little grain and he walked right away from the herd and into the barn lot. The truck and trailer were then driven into the barn lot and parked in the middle of the lot. I scratched him behind the ears and told him what a wonderful boy he is. We put some more grain in the tub, let him take a couple of mouthfuls, then I set the tub in the middle of the trailer. Rede hopped right in after it. No hesitation. The home he's gone to will use him for breeding (I gave them his pedigree and registration papers), and will treat him with loving care, and they promise that he will NEVER go to slaughter. He'll be allowed to live out his life there.. They told me I can visit him any time I want. He's only about 20 minutes drive away.